The reason? Her hairstyle — the same hairstyle she’s been sporting the entire time she’s played with AYSO: braids that cascade over the right side of her face and end in plastic beads. The referee told the little girl that unless she removed the beads from her braids, she would have to sit out the game. The beads, he explained, violated AYSO rules, which prohibit players from wearing jewelry and metal and plastic hair clips on the field but do not specifically mention beads.
Her mother, Amy Zvovushe-Ramos, was appalled. “We go to the salon for an hour and a half — it’s not as simple as ‘pull the beads out,’” she told ThinkProgress, adding that she felt her daughter had been “singled out” as the only African-American on the team. The beads, Amy explained, were not just a fashion statement. “Her #AfricanAmerican hair is a different texture and is treated differently than #Caucasian hair. We found a child-friendly style that allows her to play sports and still be a little girl,” the mom wrote in a post to Instagram, accompanying an image of her standing beside her daughter on the field.
Regardless, Amy offered to secure Aubrey’s braids with a hair tie “so they wouldn’t flap around as much,” she told ThinkProgress. The referee wouldn’t accept the makeshift solution, and Aubrey was left to sit on the bench throughout the game. Whether or not the tween was embarrassed by the move is not clear, because outwardly, she handled the situation with grace and sportsmanship, cheering on her teammates from the sidelines, according to the publication. “My daughter is the real #MVP,” Amy noted in her Instagram post.
The referee’s request is reminiscent of another incident, this past August, in which a concierge at the St. Regis Hotel in Manhattan was pulled aside by her manager for having “locs,” which violated the company’s dress code. The manager asked the employee if she could “unlock.” Dreadlocks, as the manager may or may not have known, cannot be undone — they can only be cut.
After the game, confused as to how she could have accidentally put their daughter in this position, Amy and her husband combed through the AYSO handbook to see if they had missed anything about “braided hair secured with beads,” according to the mom’s Instagram. They found nothing, so they took their complaint/query to the corporate headquarters of AYSO.
On Tuesday, they received a response and an explanation: Plastic hair beads areconsidered jewelry and are therefore banned from the soccer field, according to ThinkProgress, which gained firsthand access to the email communications. Even though this is not specified in the handbook, a rep for AYSO claimed, “there was ‘no question’ in the national office that hair beads are considered jewelry.”
Amy may have her matter-of-fact answer, but she’s still holding out for a more human response. “All I wanted was an apology and for them to admit that they handled it incorrectly,” the mom told ThinkProgress. She also feels that this unfortunate incident — which she considers to be public humiliation of her young daughter, according to her Instagram — underlines AYSO’s need for diversity sensitivity training.